Are You A Conversation Starter ?

Do you enjoy conversation ? Do you like meeting new people ?

Conversations should be fun. It’s an opportunity to meet someone and find out a bit about them. What can you talk to a stranger about ?  What do they do with their time,what are their interests…..

You can always talk about your venue, wherever you are. Are you at a Wedding/Party ? Then there is always the weather !! I wouldn’t be able to tell you how many chats I have had about the weather. Why not just say HI !! It amusing me how many good mornings we all exchange. Maybe people are full of energy in the morning, not long out of bed. I’m always happy to say hello, give a smile.

Smile

Some find it easy and free flowing, whereas others feel the complete opposite. I used to be a very shy person. But I now enjoy meeting new people. I like surprising people by been interested in what they are doing and also helping others out. Why not do something for someone else ?

Many feel stressed about how they will come across, what they will say. But we have to try and put that aside. The best you can be is the best version of yourself. Don’t try to be anyone else.

It’s a small world. Quite often when you have a chat with someone new, they know someone you know. Conversation can be a way of opening new doors. Where could these conversations lead to ? Job or Business opportunities ? You never know.

You need to create your own doors and opportunities, There are several ways of doing this and conversation is one of these. You never know what or who the person your talking to will know.

Feeling confident to talk to others is a way to bring self-esteem and we know self-esteem is one of the best medicines. Just say Hi . Perhaps a good approach is to not expect a good response. If you don’t you won’t be disappointed by ones that aren’t the friendliest they could be. That’s not about you, it’s about them. That’s their choice.

If you are afraid , the best thing to do is to get past it. The more times you push past that fear, the easier it will become. Have you done a Bungy Jump ? A Sky Dive ? Given Birth ? All of these things would have been frightening the first time.

Bungy Jmp

Another good medicine is laughter. Have a laugh. Laughter relaxes most situations. Anywhere in the world, it’s a language we all understand.

If your laughing, you should be smiling. Smiling sends the best message and one that everyone understands.  Have a practice in the mirror !!

Talk to someone new today. When you’re friendly, they’ll most often be friendly back.

 

2 Comments

  1. Rin Porter on September 24, 2015 at 1:50 pm

    Hi Bryce,
    In the U.S., we call the type of conversation you’re describing “small talk”, with emphasis on the “small.” It’s something to pass the time. People do it mostly in uncomfortable situations like waiting in line, being placed at a table with strangers at an event, sitting in a waiting room with strangers, meeting people at a cocktail party or reception, and so on. It’s good to have a short list of topics in mind, like you suggested: the weather, people’s families (“Do you have children?”), travel (“Have you been to Paris?”), upcoming events (“What team are you supporting this weekend?”), and so on. It’s best to avoid controversial topics, politics, and religion! People like talking about themselves, in many cases. You have to take culture into account. People in some cultures are offended by being asked personal questions or being spoken to by strangers. It’s an important skill to be able to engage people in conversation. Thanks for your post!
    Rin

    • Bryce on September 24, 2015 at 9:47 pm

      Hey Rin,
      The term “Small Talk” is a pretty common I think.
      Yes, you have got some good and bad idea’s for conversation there.
      I love politics though 🙂 But, everyone has an opinion on the
      likes of that. We are entitled to our own.
      All the best.

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