Communication Breakdown

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Communication is very much the key to so many things.
Times have very much changed, which I think hinders us communicating.
People spend so much time in front of computers and a part of this is Social Media. Mobile Phones are another reason for this. Text messaging really frustrates me. I only text a few loved ones. I will at someΒ stage update my mobile phone, but it currently only costs me about $10 a month.

I think it’s essential Β to still have a home phone. For starters, it can be free. It is a good way for children to start using a phone as well. Our son has started to make a few calls to family. You hear stories of young children with their own mobile phones ….12 years old. Is that really necessary ? Each to their own I suppose.

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Many people seem addicted to their mobile. I recently saw a YouTube video titled “Keep It In Your Pants”. How long could you keep your mobile in your pants ? So many people seem unable to sit without their mobiles in their hands. My wife could be put in this category.
She says its a way she relaxes. Hmmm ?

So ,Technology aside…..

People need to talk. It’s good to ask questions and listen to the answers. There is nothing worse for a relationship than silence. Some people, when upset/ stressed out, go into silent mode. That’s understandable for a certain amount of time. Sometimes we all need time to ourselves. But that isn’t always going to solve the problem.
Talking is the key. Another thing to remember is you don’t always have to be right. There will be times when you were at fault or wrong.
It’s good to talk about your day. Ask your loved ones how their day was. I always use the phrases “What do ya know ” or “What did you learn today”. If someone is special to you, you should be interested in their day. You asking about it will be special to them as well.

So, communication is the key. Yes, technology is fantastic in the way it assists us. But, there are places and times it should be put aside.

 

TALK ABOUT IT !!!!

 

β€œAssumptions are the termites of relationships.”

β€œThe single biggest problem in communication is the illusion that it has taken place.”

β€œMuch unhappiness has come into the world because of bewilderment and things left unsaid.”

β€œSo the whole war is because we can’t talk to each other.”

 

 

 

94 Comments

  1. minneapolis web development on August 13, 2015 at 11:07 am

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    • Bryce on August 13, 2015 at 8:21 pm

      Good to hear you arrived here through StumbleUpon.
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  2. Bill on August 26, 2015 at 3:07 am

    I couldn’t agree more! Many of our younger employees prefer to text as their means of communication and it has caused some problems with people missing the meaning of something because it was sent as a text and not an actual phone call. You can hear body language through a phone call and that is an important life/business skill we may be losing.

    Great article, keep it up!

    • Bryce on August 26, 2015 at 6:54 pm

      Exactly Bill.
      I don’t see the harm in the odd phone call, even if it’s to invite friends for dinner. ( My wife disagrees )
      I will try and keep the home phone for as long as possible. It’s a good way to
      teach the kids about the phone.

  3. Rich Kraemer on September 18, 2015 at 5:59 pm

    Must say, I’m more on the text/email way of communicating mostly because I’m not great at thinking on my feet. I like being able to put my thoughts down, take my time to find the right words, and edit before it’s out in “the wild”. One thing that you touched on that everyone needs to learn, those text based communications are called “cold communication” because, like you said, you can’t read emotion in voice, body language, etc. So something meant jokingly can easily be taken as an insult or accusation. As this becomes the primary source of communication in our worldwide culture, there will be growing pains and a culture shock of sorts will have to take place at some point.

    • Bryce on September 18, 2015 at 6:16 pm

      Yes, I guess it just depends on who your “talking” or “texting” with.
      How well do you know them ?

      Thank you πŸ™‚

  4. Kimberly Gauthier on September 23, 2015 at 5:23 pm

    You make such a great point. I no longer have a home phone and I do most of my communicating via social media, but I’ve learned that when a misunderstanding happens, pick up the phone (for me, it’s my cell). So many conflicts can be squashed before they get started by talking to someone over the phone or face to face.

    • Bryce on September 24, 2015 at 9:56 pm

      Many people no longer have a home phone.
      One day they won’t exist.

      Thank you.

  5. Grace on September 23, 2015 at 7:19 pm

    I am a huge advocate for intentional, meaningful communication as well. Growing up I was always quiet and shy, and I still have a hard time working against this in person. For this reason, I’ve always felt more free to open up through instant messaging, texting, emailing, etc. I know it’s important, like you’ve said, though to interact in meaningful ways face-to-face as well. I think that definitely builds stronger relationships.

    • Bryce on September 24, 2015 at 9:54 pm

      Yes, it definitely builds better relationships.
      I was once very shy as well.
      I always say “If only I knew at 20
      what I knew at 30”.
      I’m now 34.

  6. MonicaP on September 23, 2015 at 11:15 pm

    I grew up using a dial up modem and so now that I have all the “gadgets”, I find that while I like having my phone as a portable computer, I don’t need to be yacking on my phone every second of the day. I enjoy the silence πŸ™‚

    Monica.

    • Bryce on September 24, 2015 at 9:51 pm

      I remember the days of dial up.
      I remember the first mobiles as well.
      My Father got one. Nowadays, when remembering
      it we talk of it as “the brick”.

  7. Yolanda on September 24, 2015 at 12:18 am

    I agree. I wish I would’ve waited to get my daughter a phone until she was older. Great ideas about communication! I love your quotes.

    • Bryce on September 24, 2015 at 9:49 pm

      Interesting you have mentioned age there.
      We won’t be getting our kids phones to early.
      ( currently 3 & 6 ).
      Maybe a phone at 13 ?

  8. Melody on September 24, 2015 at 3:10 pm

    Unfortunately my career in fashion is surrounded by social media and I enjoy it.On the other hand when it comes to eating out with my other half or family I turn my phone off to focus my attention on them.

    • Bryce on September 24, 2015 at 9:44 pm

      Yes, social media is huge in today’s world.
      It’s really a must have in business.
      Businesses without it are really missing out.

      Thanks.

  9. Tenacious Little Terrier on September 24, 2015 at 9:14 pm

    I have to admit, I’m usually glued to my phone but I do insist on having electronic-free dinners and other times when phone time is banned.

    • Bryce on September 24, 2015 at 9:42 pm

      My wife is one always have her phone with her.
      She says playing games is a way to relax.

  10. amanda on September 24, 2015 at 9:37 pm

    I totally agree! Sometimes at restaurants it’s the adults ignoring their children while on their phones. We have made a no-phone policy at the table so that we can actually talk to each other.
    Now for work, I prefer the text/email think- ha ha

    • Bryce on September 24, 2015 at 9:41 pm

      Yes, many would or should have the no phone policy.
      Well Done.

      Thank you πŸ™‚

  11. Kirsten @ Treat Yourself Sweeter on September 24, 2015 at 11:57 pm

    Oh! A huge bug of mine. As a teacher, I see SO many communication issues with kids- not being able to express themselves in words, find talking aloud about issues hard, eye contact, asking to join games etc etc etc and I know of some 8 year olds who have mobile phones. Crazy, I think personally. I can understand when kids are older- walking home from schools, catching up with friends after school or on weekends etc. Great post, something people really need to think about!

    • Bryce on September 25, 2015 at 2:01 am

      I hear about some of that, when it comes to school kids. ( My Wife is a Teacher )
      Yes, 8 yrs old is a bit young to have a mobile.
      I’m thinking 12-13 perhaps ?

      Thank you.

  12. Carla A on September 25, 2015 at 2:02 am

    Sometimes on family game night, we put everyone’s devices in a big ziplok bag lol!

    • Bryce on September 25, 2015 at 2:04 am

      Good on you, sounds like a good idea.
      There is no time like family time.

      Well Done.

  13. Reelika @Financially Wise On Heels on September 25, 2015 at 3:47 am

    I couldn’t agree more! I have found communication to be the most important part of my marriage and also business. We have a rule at home that no TVs, cellphones, laptops, etc while we have breakfast, lunch or dinner. It really works great this way!

    • Bryce on September 25, 2015 at 7:59 am

      Yes, communication is definitely the key when it comes to marriage.
      Sounds like you have some good rules.
      πŸ™‚

  14. Zoe on September 25, 2015 at 4:15 am

    Couldn’t agree more!
    Technology can never replace face to face communication and the interaction and nourishment we get from it.
    It’s great when we can’t be with a person but seems ridiculous when your colleague emails me instead of speaks to you when they are 2 meters away!
    Great post πŸ™‚

    • Bryce on September 25, 2015 at 7:57 am

      That’s a good one, an email from 2 meters away.
      Thanks.

  15. Debbie Thompson on September 25, 2015 at 9:51 am

    I agree! I’m 51 and have been hearing for decades that communication is the number one problem in relationships, even before the explosion of computers and social media (I remember my dad with the newspaper in front of his face for what seemed like the whole evening, and I tuned out my parents with the TV or by talking on the phone to my friends for hours). I’ve experienced so many conflicts where people just won’t talk to each other and try to resolve. It baffles me. It’s obviously a really hard skill and any added escape routes, like portable technology, make it even harder.

    • Bryce on September 25, 2015 at 6:51 pm

      Yes, communication is very much the key.

      All the best πŸ™‚

  16. Tori on September 25, 2015 at 5:53 pm

    Sometimes my husband gets so frustrated waiting for someone to text him back and when I say “Why don’t you try calling them?” he looks at me like I’m insane! I also laughed when he got his new phone update and there is a new feature where you can record a voice memo and send it in a text message. He thought it was so cool but I just laughed at him and said “Oh, so you mean like a phone call?” These things are so out of hand!

    • Bryce on September 25, 2015 at 6:49 pm

      I so agree with you.
      I often say to my wife – “Why don’t you just give them a call”

      Thank you.

  17. April Grant on September 25, 2015 at 9:43 pm

    I prefer communicating through text message. I find that people tend to get to the point and be more straightforward, whereas in a conversation, they spend a bunch of time beating around the bush. As to Bill’s comment above, it’s possible that someone should take a look at how they communicate. Maybe they don’t communicate clearly if they have to rely on body language to relay a message. No, no free home phones here. I haven’t check since I moved, but our last home phone was $80 per month! It was a basically a number that the local paper would call to sell us on delivery and the phone company calling to sell us on more unnecessary services. My son is 11 and now that he’s doing more things without me, I’m strongly considering getting him a phone.

    • Bryce on September 27, 2015 at 5:15 am

      The age in which to get the children a phone is a tough one. I’m thinking maybe 13 or so.
      Our home phone bill is about $80 here in New Zealand. That includes our broadband as well. (Internet)

      Thank you

  18. anne on September 25, 2015 at 9:45 pm

    Great Post! I agree with you. A home phone is important, there have been times when a storm hits and the cell service is wiped out – but the home phone worked just fine. I usually leave my phone in the car when I’m running errands – I don’t need to be distracted with a phone conversation

    • Bryce on September 27, 2015 at 5:11 am

      Great policy of leaving your phone in the car πŸ™‚
      All the best !

  19. Caitlin on September 26, 2015 at 2:56 am

    It’s so true what you say about cell phones! When I was a teacher it used to break my heart to see kids having to work trying to get their parent’s attention while they kept talking and talking instead of taking the time to really engage with their child when picking them up at the end of the day.

    The assumption thing you mention is huge too–I love that quotation! And the way people take different phrases to mean different things…I can’t count the number of times this happens with my boyfriend. Not to mention how hard we laugh and how silly it seems once we realize where things went wacky and what the true intention was behind the words. πŸ™‚

    • Bryce on September 27, 2015 at 5:10 am

      It’s so important to talk to our kids. They are alot more important than our mobiles.
      All the best to you and your boyfriend.

  20. Jebbica on September 26, 2015 at 9:29 pm

    Hey, it’s always a good time to share Zeppelin! I am very very guilty of never saying something when something bothers me, because I don’t want to start any drama or conflict. But then it just builds and builds until I’m at a point of having a breakdown, and the other person never sees it coming! I am having to learn that it’s better to just come out and say immediately when something is bothering me. Usually it works itself out and the other person respects me for speaking my mind. And if it doesn’t work out that way, well, then I’ve saved myself some time and effort dealing with someone who isn’t worth dealing with, anyway!

    • Bryce on September 27, 2015 at 5:08 am

      Exactly, if they react really badly, they are not worth worrying about.
      Communication is the key πŸ™‚

  21. Pam on September 26, 2015 at 10:41 pm

    Technology does have a lot to do with one on one – face to face breakdown in communication. No doubt about it. You no longer can go out for dinner without someone having their face in their phone. It is so sad. However technology has also allowed us to communicate freely and inexpensively with our family members and loves ones that live so far away. You can send a message or a picture in a second and share your life with them.

    • Bryce on September 27, 2015 at 5:06 am

      Yes, like alot of things there is a good and bad side.
      The likes of Skype is very handy for chatting with family.

  22. Val on September 27, 2015 at 3:16 am

    Texting has opened up communication immensely between my oldest and I. When she hit an age that even my breathing ticked her off, we could still text a bit. Texted helped us through the couple of years where communication was near impossible.

    But you are correct. Phones have their time and place. I try to be hyper aware of using it and when. Many times I will put it away in my purse and not even check it out of respect for the people in front of me. I think it has to do with showing respect to people. πŸ™‚

    • Bryce on September 27, 2015 at 5:04 am

      Some very good points πŸ™‚
      Glad to hear it’s improved things between you and your oldest.

      Thank you.

  23. Shashi at RunninSrilankan on September 27, 2015 at 12:17 pm

    “People need to talk” I couldn’t agree more – sometimes, being face to face and having the flow of conversation is so much more necessary than back and forth texting – especially with those we are close to.

    • Bryce on September 28, 2015 at 4:28 am

      Exactly , communication is the key !!

      Thank you πŸ™‚

  24. Jere Cassidy on September 28, 2015 at 4:48 am

    What I have realized is when I need to communicate with someone I want to actually talk with them to get an immediate answer. It drives me crazy having a long conversation by texting, always waiting for an answer, and having to type in such long comments. Just talk to me…it goes faster.

    • Bryce on September 28, 2015 at 8:13 pm

      Couldn’t agree with you more.
      I’m not the quickest when it comes to entering a text.
      πŸ™‚

  25. Jessica Lane Massingill on September 28, 2015 at 9:30 am

    Excellent topic. There are so many miscommunications using technology.

    • Bryce on September 28, 2015 at 8:11 pm

      Thank you Jessica πŸ™‚

  26. Pam McCormick on September 28, 2015 at 1:00 pm

    We need more face time…in person! Agreed! We have new rule in a mom’s group I’m involved when we go to dinner and with my family as well. Cell phone are placed in a basket, so we can all actually TALK!! What a concept!! πŸ™‚

    • Bryce on September 28, 2015 at 8:10 pm

      I love the basket idea !!

  27. Jacqulyn Munns on September 28, 2015 at 7:25 pm

    Yes, Yes I agree. Too many people are using text and email as their only vehicle for communication. It is a shame. Important and/or sensitive matters should never be communicated via text. Ex. The date and time of a doctors appointment is ok. Diagnosis, prescriptions, or test results should never be communicated via text.

    • Bryce on September 28, 2015 at 8:09 pm

      I’m grateful for technology, but there is a time and a place for everything.

  28. Rachel on September 29, 2015 at 1:06 pm

    I rarely talk on the phone. It’s easier for me to send a text to my family and friends, and say hello or an encouraging word. However, I do make it a priority to visit people and get together with people for coffee or dinner.

    • Bryce on September 30, 2015 at 3:40 am

      Enjoy your coffees and dinners !! πŸ™‚

      Thank u.

  29. Dena on September 29, 2015 at 3:01 pm

    Wonderful points. The lack of true and honest communication is a serious problem today and mobile device addiction is growing faster than the new versions of iPhones can come out!

    • Bryce on September 30, 2015 at 3:39 am

      It’s always in the media when a new iPhone comes out.
      There are people at retailers doors at 5am.
      I don’t really see the point πŸ™‚

  30. The Levantess on September 29, 2015 at 4:25 pm

    It’s sad that we need a reminder, but it is true that we do. A teacher suggested an electronics basket. After a set time, all phone, gadgets, etc, “go to bed” in the basket. For parents and kids.

    • Bryce on September 30, 2015 at 3:37 am

      Good idea.
      I read another’s comment which mentioned a mothers group. They have to turn their mobiles off when they have their get together’s.
      We allow our son half an hour – 1 hour every second day in front of an ipad or computer. That’s alot less than many others we know.

  31. Karen on September 29, 2015 at 5:21 pm

    We bought a phone for our son when he was 12 years old (now 13), and occasionally our 10 and 11 year old use it as well, depending on who is playing an away game, etc. When the oldest hit Middle School, and began playing sports, it was needed. They are to call or text us when they are 30 minutes away when returning from away games (they play in early afternoon when many parents are working), so we can pick them up on time. They also take it with them when they go visit friends, so we can each call/text if needed or they are ready to be picked up. With other siblings so close in age, we are often on the go, and need to be able to reach one another easily. Of course we give the other parents our info too, but it’s nice to know the kids can contact us as needed. However, we have pretty strict rules regarding usage, they know the phone is tracked and checked each day, and at home it’s put on a shelf near the front door, not carried around.

    • Bryce on September 30, 2015 at 3:32 am

      That’s a good idea. Sharing a mobile around the family. That’s something we might adopt when the time comes.( children are currently 3 & 6 )

  32. Jen on September 29, 2015 at 6:34 pm

    Wow, so true! Last month I saw a couple in a restaurant sitting across from each other, and both were staring at their phones. So sad! I mean, what’s the purpose in spending time with someone if you’re going to be glued to the phone to the entire time?! Communication is becoming a lost art. πŸ™

    • Bryce on September 30, 2015 at 3:29 am

      Very sad.
      A good rule for a night out would be to leave your mobile at home.

  33. April Ockerman on September 29, 2015 at 8:45 pm

    Amazing how with all of the technology and ways to communicate that that is so often what is lacking in our everyday life. Texting has its time and place and sad that we have gotten so far away from using the power of our own voice to communicate with others.

    • Bryce on September 30, 2015 at 3:27 am

      Very true. At times the Communication has slowed down Communication.

      Thanks.

  34. Angela on September 29, 2015 at 8:54 pm

    I like this article! It had a nostalgic feeling to it, but it was very informative and I am grateful for the advancement of technology.

    • Bryce on September 30, 2015 at 3:25 am

      Nostalgic .
      That’s a word you don’t hear everyday.
      Yes, we are very lucky with the technology available today.

  35. Taylor on September 30, 2015 at 2:04 am

    Great information. Technology can really distract and break down our social interactions.

    • Bryce on September 30, 2015 at 3:22 am

      It surely can !!

      Thank you.

  36. Jill on September 30, 2015 at 2:36 am

    Ah… you make so many good points in your post! So true… and I am guilty of all of them:( I always have my phone in my hands…very rarely talk on the phone, mainly text. Feel lost if I forget my phone at home…. and i always think…”how did we do it before cell phones” … I do worry about the future of our kids as well with all of the technology.

    • Bryce on September 30, 2015 at 3:21 am

      Many people must have those thoughts.
      It would be interesting to jump back 25 years for a day wouldn’t it.

      All the best.

  37. shalama on September 30, 2015 at 2:58 am

    I agree that communication is key. I will admit that there are times that I can’t just leave the phone on a table without looking at it. Sometimes it’s more about how boring a meeting is or I just don’t want to hear what they are saying.

    • Bryce on September 30, 2015 at 3:19 am

      Playing with your phone during a boring meeting… πŸ™‚
      I won’t tell anyone.

      Thanks

  38. Maria Magdalena on September 30, 2015 at 4:09 am

    Totally agree! Communication is the door to understanding.

    • Bryce on September 30, 2015 at 6:36 pm

      Communication is very much the key.

      Thank you.

  39. Aimee on September 30, 2015 at 2:24 pm

    We have been very cautious with exposing our children to technology. Our oldest son is 11, and still doesn’t have a cell phone, yet many of his classmates have had one since 1st grade. It seems a bit ridiculous to me. Some of these kids have no idea how to communicate face to face. Technology has its place, but like everything else it can become a problem if people abuse it.

    • Bryce on September 30, 2015 at 6:35 pm

      Congrats on not following the crowd when it comes to your son and a mobile.
      My children are still young (3 & 6 ).
      I might have mine share a phone, just when it’s needed.

  40. Lindi Mogale on September 30, 2015 at 2:32 pm

    I am definitely a phone addict and it is something I am working on as you miss alot of life while glued to it

    • Bryce on September 30, 2015 at 6:33 pm

      Yes you can. All the best with your phone addiction.

      πŸ™‚

  41. Erica Brooks on September 30, 2015 at 5:11 pm

    I agree communication is important. You have to listen and not just do the talking. I’ve been seriously considering taking a break from my phone.

    • Bryce on September 30, 2015 at 6:32 pm

      That would be a brave step…taking that break πŸ™‚

      Thanks.

  42. Malorie on September 30, 2015 at 10:24 pm

    I totally agree!!! I love connecting with people and having great conversations, so it bugs me when I meet people who only want to text.

    • Bryce on September 30, 2015 at 11:17 pm

      Thanks Malorie πŸ™‚

  43. Lana on September 30, 2015 at 11:07 pm

    You are so right about communication! And ‘silent treatment’ never works, I think.
    But a good dose of electronic communication is healthy too, if done in moderation. I always text my children when I am at work and cannot make a phone call, sometimes just to say ‘I love you’, or’ Have a fun day’! They appreciate that a lot and usually reply with ‘I love you mama’. But when at home, we always talk, always!
    Thank you for the great post!

    • Bryce on September 30, 2015 at 11:16 pm

      Yes, the silent treatment is pointless isn’t it.
      Great to hear your children hear those 3 words.

      Thanks.

  44. karissa on October 1, 2015 at 2:00 am

    I agree about having a home phone. My daughter is 9 and keeps asking when she can have a cell phone. I keep saying talk to me in a few years. Not at 9!

    • Bryce on October 1, 2015 at 3:48 am

      I won’t be rushing to get my children phones either.
      That’s what I’ll be saying at 9 as well.

      All the best πŸ™‚

  45. Sam Sly on October 1, 2015 at 2:43 am

    Sure, it is easy to miscommunicate via Internet since tone and body language are lost. I think it depends a lot on context. I don’t experience much miscommunication with people I know through text.

    • Bryce on October 1, 2015 at 3:47 am

      Thanks Sam πŸ™‚

  46. Adrienne on October 1, 2015 at 8:30 am

    I agree communication is key – to family, love, friends, business, and life in general. Mobile phones are a blessing and a curse. Mobile phones are a great way to stay connected. However, the mobile phones distract the user from other people in the same room or house. It’s a fine line between just right and too much non-verbal communication. Thank you for your thoughts. ~Adrienne

    • Bryce on October 1, 2015 at 4:11 pm

      Yes, it is a very fine line.
      Technology is very much a blessing, but also a curse.

      Thanks Adrienne

  47. Jill on October 2, 2015 at 4:20 am

    Interesting post. I think how we use technology and knowing how to communicate, as well as being honest with ourselves and the people we’re communicating with, are important aspects as well. It’s not so black and white. I find the breakdowns come more from being dishonest, consciously or not, with ourselves and others. That and the lack of a font for sarcasm. πŸ˜‰

    • Bryce on October 2, 2015 at 7:41 am

      Thank you Jill πŸ™‚

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